Towards the middle of the year, after just launching my blog, I felt like I was being safe with my decisions. I didn’t take any risks to help my career, I didn’t just randomly book a plane ticket, or do something crazy and out of the norm for myself. I’m sure most of us can relate and I can understand why taking risks are hard. What if you fail? If you look bad doing it? What if people talk and laugh at you? These thoughts begin to consume you and you ended up seeing September come by and you’re like what did I EVEN do this year?
I kept seeing on my Facebook over and over again to apply for the Miss Florida USA pageant. I didn’t think anything of it, because honestly, I’m FIVE foot, NOT under 100 pounds and didn’t think I was good enough to compete with the stunning ladies this pageant has had over the years. The doubt was just TOO powerful to overcome! Couple days go by and still this pop-up is literally EVERYWHERE on my social media. Then on the eve of my 25th birthday, I thought to myself, “Karen, why not?” Think of the opportunity this could present, the people you could potentially meet, the network you could build. What this opportunity could mean for your brand?
That DOUBT was soon gone. I applied and said if it’s meant to be, I’ll get chosen as a delegate, if not, well I TRIED! If something keeps flashing on your screen or you keep thinking about trying it but are just unsure about it, DO IT! What do you have to lose? NOTHING! Yeah, it’ll hurt if you don’t get chosen but it simply just wasn’t meant to be. There’s always another opportunity waiting for you to try and KILL IT! Don’t let one hold you down, there’s plenty of opportunities to go around.
Don’t ever doubt yourself:
DOUBT was my biggest enemy. It is SO hard to get that little voice inside your mind to actually say what you want it to say. But you have too just push the negativity away and chase your dreams and start taking risks to achieve something bigger. For YOU! Don’t let anyone, even yourself, talk you out of doing something you want to do. It’s scary taking risks, I know, but the reward after doing it is indescribable, it’s like I just won the Super Bowl feeling! (I don’t personally know what that feels like but every time Tom Brady wins one, he seems like he’s on cloud 9!) It’s a high that’s unparalleled to anything else in the world. You did something for you, you overcame any doubters, and YOU are set to prove them wrong.
When I arrived to orientation that Thursday afternoon, I walked into a room full of woman head to toe with full makeup on, glamorous dresses/jumpsuits, hair all done up, and everything. I literally thought about turning around and going back home. My Forever XXI dress just didn’t stand up to the other gowns. Then I realized, I was hand-picked to be here, I had earned my spot in this room just like all the other girls. Out of over 700 women across the beautiful state of Florida, I was chosen to be in the TOP 200! So if the Miss Florida USA organization saw something in me, why couldn’t I? Again, doubt enter my head for a moment but I didn’t let it overcome me. I was going to be in control of my opportunity.
Now I knew I was going to have to interview with judges, learn choreography, be photo ready, walk in front of hundreds in a bikini and evening gown. ALL intimidating on their own! I just took each obstacle as its own and faced it head on. I KNOW, I KNOW! Easier said than done, but that is a part of taking risks, learning to overcome any doubt/fears/insecurities you have. I knew I wasn’t I size 0 walking into this, but what made my body any uglier than hers, NOTHING! So why was I comparing? I had to happy in my own skin or I was just going to fail.
Taking risks is scary, its stressful, but it is something that helps you grow. My next post will be all about how the Miss Florida USA pageant completely changed my life, changed my outlook, and most importantly gave me CONFIDENCE in myself that I didn’t have before so stay tuned for next week.
A huge part of taking risks is having the confidence in yourself. Having the confidence to say, I didn’t achieve the reward I was looking for, but did I learn anything? Did I grow from this experience? And if you answered YES! Well, that sounds like you won something to me. During my 4-day weekend at the Miss Florida USA pageant, I grew more confident in myself. Did I win? No.
But I walked on stage in front of hundreds of people, the Chrisley Family, the Miss USA organization members, and walking on that stage I felt like I was on top of the world with all those people staring and cheering me on. I didn’t win the title but I won. All 200 woman are an inspiration to me and our sisterhood is unbeatable. I felt confident in myself. I felt like I could take on the world. I felt stronger than ever to empower more woman to take chances, create platforms, and change the world we know.
Taking risks can be scary, but it can BE SO SO rewarding as well. Who said you aren’t good enough? Who created that doubt inside you? I want you to ignore it. I want you to grab that doubt, that fear, that insecurity, and use it as motivation. Use it as a driving force to take that risk and smash it head on. If you don’t succeed? Learn from it, grow from it, and in those moments is where you realize you may just have WON. “Nothing in this world is handed to you. You have to go out and get it! Nobody said it would be easy but hard work always pays off.” Comment below or email me, if you’re thinking about taking a risk and need some extra support. I want to hear your story!